Become the Eye of the Storm
Jul 31, 2025
“Don’t complain about what you allow.
Responsibility is not a burden, fault, praise, blame, credit, shame, or guilt. All these include judgments and evaluation of good and bad, right and wrong, or better and worse. They are not responsibility…
Responsibility starts with the willingness to deal with a situation from and with the point of view, whether at the moment realized or not, that you are the source of what you are, what you do, and what you have.” - Werner Erhard
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I met with my writers group a few weeks ago and the discussion was centered around creating a consistent writing habit.
Many writers spoke of closed doors and identified time to themselves.
As you might imagine, that is not only a struggle but a virtual impossibility in my home.
I wish I had a magic wand scenario for you but that is not a reality.
It is the consistent things I put into place that allow me the space to find success.
Radical Responsibility was something I pulled from a business book awhile back but it wasn’t until I read these words I shared above and below from Werner Erhard that I was able to explain why it worked.
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I am a full time parent caregiver for Caden and Adam.
Their needs are neither convenient nor always easy to plan for.
Often the storm of their chaos brews and occurs regardless of all my meticulous planning.
I am not speaking of the unsafe moments or meltdowns, just how they live life, existing within the layers of autism and their unique needs.
It is in these moments that I need to become the eye of the storm.
I want you to notice I said BECOME and not merely exist within.
It is a perspective shift that has taken time.
I give space for my sons to live and exist as they need to:
🌀Loud
🌀Vocal
🌀Asynchronous
🌀Messy
🌀Repetitive
While I write I am in the middle of this, intentionally rather than chaotically surrounded by the storm, I chose to still the storm in my own space without trying to control their needs.
We can co-exist for periods of time and all get our needs met.
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“Responsibility starts with the willingness to deal with a situation from and with the point of view, whether at the moment realized or not, that you are the source of what you are, what you do, and what you have.
It is not “right” or even “true,” to declare oneself as “cause” in the matter, It’s just empowering. By standing for yourself as cause, “what happens” shifts from “happening to you” to “just happening” and ultimately to "happening as a result of your being cause in the matter.”
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Stay tuned for exciting things to come! In the meantime you can always join the Free Facebook group Parent Caregivers: Productivity For Real Life.
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